Loneliest Person in the World

With all the ways to communicate in this world, I am the loneliest person in the world. As I sit here listening to a beautiful version of John Legend’s All of Me with Lindsey Stirling, https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xwsYvBYZcx4, my heart feels broken. The violin pulls at my heartstrings and tugs tears from my eyes. I never envisioned my life to wind up like this. I always imagined I’d have a happy ending. College, career, love, marriage, kids… I never thought I’d end up a 42 year old divorcee living alone after my sons became adults, having to live away from my daughter during the most important years of her life.
In this world, we have Facebook, Twitter, YouTube, Google+, Blogs, cellphones, texting. All designed to stay in touch with the people who are important to us, and to meet people with similar interests to us. I do appreciate that they are there. But the one person I want to stay in touch with? Well, it doesn’t matter that I have all of those, because the distance between us is more than miles. It is time, and time cannot be undone. I left. My health made it necessary. I never thought that would drive a wedge between us, between a daughter and her mom. But it has. And I grieve.


I have been the most unlucky in love. Over and over again, I have chosen the wrong people. I have failed in relationships or they have let me down. The world has beat me down. I have searched the world over, it seems, for someone I can love… looked high and low. The only one I ever really loved, the only person I gave my whole heart and soul to, the only one I gave the world to, was the worst person in the world for my heart. I always wanted to believe in a soul mate, but I do not any longer. There is no such thing. I don’t believe in fairy tales. There is no ‘prince charming.’ If there ever was, the world ruined him long before I ever got there.


I live in isolation. I no longer live in fear, most of the time, but it has taken a toll in my life, in that I don’t have any friends locally. I haven’t made friends with my neighbors, not really. I am really eccentric. The friends I knew back when I was young have long disappeared, like ghosts in the wind. I am the loneliest person in the world. I see other people interact, talk, laugh, and I wonder what that’s like. It wasn’t like this for me on the mainland. I had friends. What happened?


I got sober. It became harder to relate. The friends I had, mostly, still drank. My crowd shrank. It had been shrinking anyway, as my ability to control my drinking got out of hand. When I left the mainland, I had one friend left who I still spent time with, someone I could be myself with. She is my best friend. We will always be friends, no matter what.


Why can’t I make friends? I have such a hard time trusting people. I am always let down. God never lets me down. But it sure gets lonely down here. I really love the beautiful people who follow my blog and those I follow. I love my family and friends on Facebook. But my life is lonely.


2 thoughts on “Loneliest Person in the World

  1. Merryn says:

    My heart goes out to you- I could really sense the deep pain you feel as I read your post. I am so glad you have had the courage to reach out and to cry out for support- it can only get better from here, and I am going to pray that God sends you exactly the type of people you need right now to help you get through these lonely times, and also brings healing to your body and emotions. Psalm 139 and Psalm 91 would be encouraging for you to read right now. God knows everything about us and loves us infinitely. He also is our strength and shelter if we put our trust in Him.
    Today in church, the lady who preached spoke about our identity, and one of the ways Satan tries to destroy us is to fill our mind with doubts about our worth as people. I want to encourage you to find your worth in what God says about you- you are a princess, a daughter of the King of Kings- born into His family, not by genetics but by your faith in His saving grace. You are a new creation- the old has gone; the new has come! Walk in the truth of His Word and then your feelings will follow. Only when you let God fill you with His love and help you love yourself, can you begin to reach out to others confidently and without expecting them to fill the void that only God can fill. It’s a journey and it doesn’t instantly happen, but as you work through your pain and ask Jesus to heal your pain, you will gradually find your feet in friendship- making again. Many blessings xo

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