Titanium

I was just on Facebook, browsing through my notifications. For some reason, I get alerted every time my cousin, Mindy, posts something (I think I’m stalking her! 😉 At least, that’s the running joke). You know those posts where you can take a survey and find out what country you ought to live in, or what state you are from based on how you talk? Well this one was What Should Be Your Theme Song? Hers was A Thousand Miles, which she said was ‘perfect.’ I was just going to comment that I would probably get Miles and Miles because I’ve driven across the country so much, or I’d get some 80’s song because that would just be my luck (the only 80’s music I really like is Heavy Metal, Duran Duran and a few others, the other stuff makes me kinda crazy because, what happened??) But I decided to just take the test. Some of the questions were funny, like, “Do you see the glass half full, half empty, or “I think this is piss?” Because the water in the glasses really looked like pee. I finished the last question, which asked me to pick a lyrical line out of a list, and I picked the lyric that I thought spoke to me the most. I was then told my song was Titanium, and a video started playing. I’ve never before heard this song, and I was displeased that it was techno. I don’t really like techno. Yet I scrolled and saw the words, and they fit me perfectly. Usually, these quizzes don’t fit me. This was a special treat.

I have been through so much in my life, and to find a song that affirms that, yet doesn’t make me out to be a victim is awesome. I have been told I am a strong woman and at times I’ve struggled with that because society views women who have been ‘victims’ of domestic violence, of bullying, as forever a victim, but it’s simply not the case. We DO overcome and are stronger for it. There is a great strength in us, and there is also strength for women who are currently struggling in knowing we, who are survivors, are out here to help. Know that you can come to us and get support. Know that you are loved and welcome. Know that you are awesome. Just by being you, you have won the war. You don’t have to allow society to paint you as a victim, because you are TITANIUM. 🙂

For help: the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1−800−799−7233 or TTY 1−800−787−3224.

http://www.thehotline.org/

National Sexual Assault Hotline – 1.800.656.HOPE

http://www.rainn.org/get-help/national-sexual-assault-hotline

http://www.stopbullying.gov/get-help-now/

Here’s the song:

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Domestic Violence

SAD

Too many disappointments have been reaped from a sorrow-filled life…

Too many tears I have shed, for a man who called me his wife.

Often I wonder what all this is for,

Why is this load so heavy to bear?

Why am I trying so hard?

It doesn’t seem to matter anymore.

Although I have come a long way,

From the misery of before,

Still I have to wonder,

What am I here for?

 

PLEASE UNDERSTAND

Please understand:

It wasn’t just the bruises that hurt.

It was the shame,

It was and is the names.

I was sinking,

Still do sometimes…

So low.

I feel I cannot live carrying this knowledge… must relieve it, but…

I don’t know how…

I sink…

I cry, give my soul to all the world.

Few can understand my plight.

Or could back then, either…

No one can fathom…

My psychology…

How helpless I felt .

I could not emotionally survive without him…

I could not save myself…

I turned on myself…

Blamed myself.

Excused him…

At times, how I loved him! Oh it was higher than the sky!

How I hated him, at others…

Then, confusion…

Then,

Vengeful…

Most of all,

Feeling, once more,

self-blame,

at the same time,

as Hate.

A cycle.

 

Missing on Maui & the Big Island of Hawaii

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Missing From: Wailuku, Hawaii
Missing Since: 01/12/14
White Female
Age at Disappearance: 46
Date of Birth: 09/08/67
Height: 5’7
Weight: 170
Eyes: Brown
Hair: Brown
Clothing: Black cargo capri pants. Cotton Shirt
Nickname: Mo

Details of Disappearance
Monsalve was last seen around 10 p.m. on January 12 at her ex-boyfriend’s home in Wailuku. She was reported missing  on January 14 and the car she had been driving was found later that day. She has never been seen or heard from since. Her case remains unsolved.

Investigative Agency
Maui Police Department ( Hawaii)
808-989-6246

Source: http://www.ncmissingpersons.org/moreira-monsalve/

Mowatch Page on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mowatchmoreiramonsalve

If you know anything about Mo’s disappearance, please call MPD. Anything at all. Alexis and her family deserve to know, to have closure, to have justice.

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Name: Carly “Charli” Scott

Missing from Makawao, Maui, Hawaii

Age: 27

Height: 5’10

Weight: 160 lbs

Hair: Red

Eyes: Green

NEW: Disappeared Special Aired tonight, May 26, 2014- Missing in Maui : http://www.investigationdiscovery.com/tv-shows/disappeared/videos/four-crime-scenes-one-missing-person.htm?utm_source=facebook.com&utm_medium=social&utm_campaign=DisappearedonID

Carly Scott’s mother reported her missing on Monday, February 10, 2014. She was last seen by a family member on Sunday night, the 9th of February, leaving her sister’s home in her 1997 Toyota 4Runner with her dog Nala. Her dog was found in the Nahiku Marketplace unharmed. Her vehicle was found burned near the Peahi shoreline at the surf spot also known as Jaws. Charli was nearly 6 months pregnant at the time of her disappearance. Her case was reclassified as a homicide on March 7, 2014.

Contact information: Callers can remain anonymous by contacting Maui Crime Stoppers, Inc. at (808) 242-6966 or toll free from outer islands at (888) 242-6966. Maui Crime Stoppers, Inc. is a non-profit corporation that allows members of the public to remain anonymous while providing police with information vital to this case. Or you can call the Maui Police Department Tip Hotline at (808) 244-6400 Ext. 0. Crimestoppers website, click here.

For further information, please visit Charli’s family’s Find Charli Scott Facebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/FindCharliScott

The family is having a memorial on Sunday, March 23, 2014, at 11:00 AM. Baldwin Beach Park, Paia, Hawaii.

Please pray for justice for Charli & Joshua Aiden Scott. You will never be forgotten.

If you know anything, any tiny little thing that could help break this case or Mo’s case, CALL IT IN. You will not only be doing a service to their families but for yourself, the human race. This poor woman and child did not deserve this fate. The perpetrator(s) of this crime(s) must be called to account for what he or they have done in a court of law. Also, if you have any theories with evidence to back it up, please get in touch with police or family. If you see anyone behaving suspiciously either in the area or on the web, call. Or get in touch online.

I was surprised to find out that I had a couple friends over there in Maui who were friends with people who were friends with Charli, her friends and her ex boyfriend. The islands are that small. I am rooting for you, Charli & Joshua! Much Love from a Hawaiian Violet to a beautiful Unicorn. ❤

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Naomi Monica Shalom Sanders

Missing since June 6, 2011

Last Seen at her home in Kealakekua, Hawaii at 8pm

Big Island of Hawaii

County of Hawaii

State of Hawaii

First Name: Naomi

Middle: Monica Shalom

Maiden: Beshore

Age: 42 at disappearance

Height: 5’1-5’3

Weight: 100 -120 lbs

Hair: Brown

Eyes: Hazel

Tattoos: Tribal band tattoo upper right arm

Clothing: A blue t-shirt and black shorts or a dark red long sleeved shirt and dark-colored denim pants.

Medical: Sanders is an alcoholic. She is disabled.

Circumstances: Naomi Sanders (Beshore), female 42 years old, who resides at her mothers Kealakekua coffee-farm property, in a separate dwelling, was last seen at her residence on 06-06-2011 at about 8pm. The following morning she could not be located and mysteriously, her vehicle, purse, cell phone, etc remained. Sanders, an alcoholic, was reportedly extremely intoxicated and was acting unusual the last day she was seen but thorough searches were conducted on / around the property which resulted in no sign of Naomi.

Her bank account has been untouched. An extensive search of the area turned up no clues. She was supposed to fly to Honolulu on June 14, 2011 to have bladder surgery but never showed for her flight. A possible sighting of her on June 15 in the vicinity of the Honolulu Airport but this hasn’t been confirmed and there’s no evidence she flew at all.

Naomi was recently separated from husband, however there is no indication at this point to believe he or anyone else close to her is involved in her disappearance. She used to run a cleaning business with her husband, Professional Cleaning Systems. Little information is available. Her family believes she is deceased.

Sources: http://www.charleyproject.org/cases/s/sanders_naomi.html

http://www.missingin.org/reg6373/naomi_monica_shalom_sanders.htm

http://hilo.hawaiitribune-herald.com/sections/news/local-news/without-trace.html

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I knew Naomi in High School, she was a friend of mine. I was younger than her and I knew her sister better. I was horrified and appalled to learn of her disappearance, and as the months and then years just went by with nothing new learned, it was just really awful and sad. No one knows what happened to Omi. Her sister still grieves for her. I cannot imagine any sort of real closure happening without knowing WHO, WHAT, WHEN, HOW & WHY.

Before my sister passed away, she was missing for almost two weeks. This wasn’t all that uncommon for her to fall off the radar for a few days, but weeks? Her daughter was pregnant and about to give birth. Then I called my dad and was in the process of leaving a message to say, ‘Hey maybe we ought to call in a missing person’s report,’ when my dad picked up and said my sister was gone. Eventually we got autopsy results and found out what happened. There was no foul play. It is still really sad and awful to lose a loved one the way we did. At least we know, we got answers… I still have a lot of questions, but those will likely never be answered.

The point is, every family needs to know. If you know what happened to Naomi, any clue whatsoever, please, do the right thing. Call Hawaii Police Department. Police Detective Sean Smith at 326-4646, ext. 262, or the police non-emergency line at 935-3311. Anonymous tips may be left at 961-8300.Thank you.

May all of our loved ones and all those who are missing who have passed rest in perfect peace.

 

What is going on in Hawaii?

I was born and raised on the Big Island and it has always been pretty safe to live here, or so I thought. In the late 90’s I left and moved to upstate NY and back then, Kona was still laid-back and pretty quiet. Upstate NY was too. I was gone for 11 years when I came back to Kona in 2010, it had changed.The population had expanded and so had businesses. There were a lot more stores and a lot of other commercial enterprises. That is pretty typical with a population increase. What I hadn’t considered was the crime rate.

Maybe I just never noticed when I was younger, but it seems the crime rate has increased a great deal since then. Another thing that has gone up a lot is the Missing Persons rate. The factor that both of these have in common seem to be the solve ratio: a lot of the missing persons cases aren’t being solved, and the various crimes being committed don’t always seem to be getting taken care of either for whatever reason. At least that has been what I understand from what I’ve read in the newspaper. There’s a shortage of police officers, I hear. There is a need for another station in South Kona. A year ago there was an article in West Hawaii today about how the police officers’ role was no longer proactive but they are there to deal with the after-math only.

It appears sex crimes have gone up as well. I looked up the registered sex offenders within a 3 mile radius of where I live, and 28 (!) men came up, one whom I used to work with back in the 90’s. I had my own personal reasons for doing so, but this did not give me any sort of peace of mind. When you look these men up, you can view what their sentencing was, whether they did jail time, probation, if they pled guilty, no contest, etc. Most of these guys plea-bargained with the DA in order to get a lesser sentence or only probation. Is this the sort of message Hawaii is sending to possible offenders? Commit a sex crime and get off with probation? There was a man on the news just the other day, he was on probation after having been charged with 7 counts as a sex offender! He was allowed to violate his probation multiple times, have contact with a minor and fail to contact his probation officer before they hauled him into court, then they only sentenced him to jail for 10 years.  That is not what I call justice. Someone, or multiple someones, are suffering because of the choices that man made. Please go to our State Legislature’s Website here and ask for tougher sentences for sex offenders. This would mean a lot to me as I am a survivor.

Regarding the many missing persons here. The Big Island is small and rural compared to many places on the mainland. You can drive around it in a day if you’re ambitious. There are many small towns and two larger towns (Hilo and Kona). The bad news is there’s a lot of places where people who don’t want to be found can hide, and there are a lot of places where people can ‘hide’ people. The most rural areas are Kau, North & South Kohala, Pololuu Valley, Waimanu Valley, Waipio Valley, Puna & Volcano. In South Kona there are areas where a person can drop off the map, like below Kealakekua, Hookena, Kealia, Milolii… In the Kau District there’s Ocean View, there are a lot of places in Ocean View that are miles off the road that I would never venture onto.  There’s drugs, violence, you hear of criminals hiding out…  So basically, if someone is missing and they were taken or they were hiding for some reason, those would be the places to look, depending on where they disappeared from. And there have been a lot of people going missing, a lot without a trace or barely a trace, particularly in the last ten years. A friend of mine from High School went missing in 2011. There are some others from Kona, but there are a lot from Hilo side. A lot of those are from Puna. Someone remarked that a lot of the people who are missing are white, and yes for some reason that is true. Most are also women. That factor scares us women in Hawaii and we want answers that haven’t been forthcoming from the police or government. There’s also no ‘official’ missing persons website for our State or our island.  Please click here to write Mayor Billy Kenoi to change that. With regards to our State, well, I’ve written to Gov. Abercrombie, but have received no response and that is typical for him.

Another issue I want to briefly touch upon: human trafficking. It is real and it happens on our islands, particularly on Maui and the Big Island. In 2010, the NY Times wrote an article shaming our State on its poor response to human trafficking; we had received an F on how we dealt with it. Farm owners bring foreign workers into the State with the promise of citizenship and freedom and it is all a lie, instead they endure forced labor and threats, even beatings, and they often can’t get away because the ‘owner’ has their documentation and money. The other kind of human trafficking is sex trafficking. These are young men who are out there targeting young girls, teenagers usually. They target them in places like malls. They act like they are these girls’ boyfriends, get to know everything about them, get the girls to trust them, then they bring the girls in to their boss. Once there, the girls are threatened, told their families will be harmed if they don’t cooperate, their identification held, their training started. When they are deemed “ready,” they are put out into the streets under careful watch and forced to work in the sex trade. Please inform your teenagers and younger relatives of this and to be very wary of this scheme, it is real and out there. Sexual predators aren’t just hiding in the bushes.

NY Times Article

Signs of Human Trafficking in Hawaii

Governor Abercrombie Signs Human Trafficking Laws

Understanding Human Trafficking in the Hawaiian Islands

Thank you for taking the time to read this blog.

My friend who is missing is Naomi Monica Shalom Sanders, maiden name Naomi Beshore.

You can click here for her vital statistics.

I want to mention that I have been following the missing women in Maui as well.

What’s going on there is very scary. I want to help find Charli & her baby Joshua, if you know anything, please click here to help.

If you can help bring Moreira Monsalve home to her Maui Ohana, click here.